Dawn Rechkemmer, tLMHC
Do I Really Need Counseling?
What I’ve learned from helping hundreds of clients with anxiety, panic, PTSD, depression, and other problems is that there are a lot of common struggles that people go through – self-doubt, embarrassment, isolation, feelings of helplessness, lack of confidence . . . If you’re feeling this, it’s normal and it’s a sign that you want something to change but don’t know how to make that happen.
Many people wait years before they finally get help. They tell themselves things like, “I shouldn’t make a big deal about this”, or “I should be able to get over this ”, or “There isn’t anything I can do”. Getting help doesn’t have to be a bad thing. It takes a lot of courage and a lot of guts to reach out for help.
You can improve if you get the right help. That means working with a helping professional who understands your problem, knows the challenges you are going through, and gives you the steps to build your confidence again.
Let Me Help You Get Unstuck . . .
Life is full of challenges, struggles, and setbacks. Most of the time we can get through these challenges but sometimes they pile up on us. Getting stuck means more than just feeling stressed: it means your usual way of coping isn’t working or you just don’t have any idea what to do next. Are you experiencing any of these issues?
- Feeling bad about yourself, like you let others or yourself down
- Being nervous, worrying, doubting yourself, lacking confidence or self-esteem
- Feeling misunderstood or having arguments with your partner
- Having conflict with your children or disagreements with your partner about how to parent
- Being stuck in a job you dislike, find stressful, or are trapped in
- Being afraid to take risks, fearing the unknown, being a perfectionist, or over-planning.
- Feeling unaccepted by others, lonely, r that your family or friends don’t understand you.
- Feeling you can’t be yourself
- Dealing with trauma from your job, such as being a police officer or other first responder or medical provider
- Personally experiencing trauma through accidents, injuries, assault, abuse, or loss
- Feeling emotionally worked up, overwhelmed, confused, or uncertain about how to deal with your problems
How I'll Help You
Are there things you haven’t been able to share with family or friends? You can share your feelings, fears, and struggles with me and be assured that I will support and encourage you. Sometimes, the most important thing in therapy is to feel understood and accepted. Whether you are feeling overwhelmed or buried under a mountain of problems, I can help you to figure out why you’re stuck and what you can do. Many people get lost in their thoughts – worrying, dwelling on their problems, or thinking negatively. I can teach you to change your thinking and learn strategies and skills to cope with anxiety, depression, stress, or other problems. Maybe you need to change your behaviors. I can help you to take more risks, be more assertive, or confront your fears. Maybe there is a decision you need to make but you’ve been avoiding it. Should I quit my job? Should I move out of the area? Should I get a divorce? I can help you figure out what is the right decision for you and learn to be more confident, assertive, or decisive. Through our work together, you can start to feel happier and more confident and either regain a sense of who you were or develop a new approach to life. You can gain a greater sense of purpose and meaning in life and, instead of waking up dreading the day and get out of bed feeling that you have something to look forward to.
I use an approach called cognitive-behavioral therapy or CBT. Cognitive-behavioral therapy is an approach that looks at the way we think about problems as a major reason those problems cause distress. For example, when people go through trauma, it often causes them to think about life in a more fearful and cautious manner. This thinking may cause people to be overly cautious, distrustful, socially isolated, anxious, and fearful. I’ll help you to change the way you feel and behave, by helping you to change the thinking that underlies your problems. Once you change how you think, it will change your outlook, your behaviors, your decisions, and most importantly, the way you see yourself.
I also use a variety of other approaches, including strength based, humanistic, emotion focused, trauma focused, validating, interpersonal and others. Don’t worry if you’re not familiar with these. I’ll develop a plan that is specially designed for your problem, your circumstances, and your personality. Together we help you to confront this problem, get unstuck, and live the kind of life that you want and deserve.